Here is a true story of what can happen when the Registry is not adhered to…
In college, one of my older sorority sisters invited me to her wedding. (She named all the tables for the reception after things from her college career: IU Basketball, Nick’s (a favorite bar). She sat her parents and her new husband’s parents at the ‘Bursar’ table!) One of the non-registry gifts (as my husband says, ‘they were already backing up’) she received was a salad bowl on legs. Yes, legs. A non-registered for salad bowl on legs I guess in theory a good idea: if you
have a small table, the salad bowl takes up the entire thing, thus leaving no room for plates, napkins, silverware, etc. (It does beg the question: How do you pass the salad bowl?) (And if you are limited on space- where does one store a salad bowl on a tripod?) She and her husband lived in a wee apartment while he was in medical school, and they didn’t have a table. (I remember this because it was a huge point of contention- they could have a table if they lived in a larger, grosser, farther from campus apartment, or, they could have no table and have a cute, clean, apartment building with neighbors that might or might not have been on Cops. Faced with this choice, they went table-less. They had a couple of stools pushed up to a counter instead. I don’t even want to imagine what would fall into a bowl several feet below the table around people who are eating.) Shudder. They clearly would never use this salad bowl, and so it had to be returned. My friend had looked the salad bowl up online and was both pleased and appalled at the price of the salad bowl. She was pleased because it was very generous, and appalled because they spent THAT on a legged salad bowl! She checked the price online right after the wedding, and the price was around fifty dollars. A couple of weeks later, she recruited me to go on exchanging duty with her, as her husband was busy with you know, medical school and all. The fine store folks at Bed Bath and Beyond don’t communicate with their internet brethren because the pricing was, um, a little off… my friend actually passed out when the return value amount popped up on the screen BECAUSE IT SAID $6.59! When she came to, she ended up exchanging the salad bowl for a lovely paper towel rack (it was on her registry). In good news, she and her husband are still happily married. And, in better news, they got everything they wanted from their baby registry when they had children a few years ago!
Wedding are so much fun- open bar, good food, and dancing. Oh, and the whole love and commitment thing is good too.
(My husband is so embarrassed because I am the girl who cries at every wedding. Even the weddings on shows like ‘Platinum Wedding’s (shut up! It’s a good show!)). Please, please show your hosts the same love they have shown you by giving them what they want! Use the registry. Love the registry (Men, once you are married, you will use-and love- The List).